Friday, August 29, 2008

I have the whole world with me, but i do require the stipend!


I personally feel that having a good family to support you, good friends to stand by you and most of all an open mind to the world will make u a happier person than anything else in this world. Ofcourse money plays a major role in it. But it is definitely not all about money, I know many people would agree to that. Nevertheless it is strange that we tend to respect people with wealth more than a wise and honest man under poverty line. There is this song in tamil- "oruvan oruvan mudhalali", Muthu, which has lyrics about money and man. It goes like this-"If money is not your servant, it will be your master. The covetous man cannot so properly be said to possess wealth, as that may be said to possess him". All i have learnt regarding money till now is, when a person's stomach is full, it doesnt matter if he is rich or poor. I have never wanted money in large amounts. It was just to satisfy my basic needs, but sometimes i feel those needs are needs of a rich guy when viewed from a poor's point of view. I can have 3-4 meals a day, sitting in a lab with ac, while a person below poverty line has to work his ass off to earn a single meal for himself and his family. Now we can see why Gods(if at all they exist...) take the sides of persons with wealth. If he had created us so that we could peacefully co exist, he should have given equal priority(=money+happiness) to all of us. But then again if he intended us mankind to sort out that difference and help each other, then man he has no brains! If he wanted us that way he should have induced such thoughts in us rather than making us so materialistic and money-craving barbarians. That makes us feel that we do what we want to do going against anything and everything if need be. Man is made by his belief, as he beleives so he is. (a quote from Gita... I am not religious nor god-loving, and neither do i believe in destiny) .Not many of my friends are interested in literal money. But come on tell me how many of us wont take up a job that offers twice as much as what we get now? Though we perfectly know that we have been living with this amount till now, and we are well off with this amount, we want more. Why? What for? Money was one of the reasons that forced me to take up this PhD. These thoughts come to us only because there are different strata of people when the society is characterised based on money. People from villages yearns to live a city-bred life. People from city(In India) want to live like someone in USA. How many of us have cousins and friends married to people in USA and other countries? Why? Is it because the guy is super brilliant? No , its because he has lots of money to sustain both of them and probably their off springs too. This kind of divide came up only because concept of money came in. Why is earning money given such prime importance in this world? I sometimes wonder, we never should have interrupted nature in any way. That is a different kind of thought process, coming back to the money mindedness of humans like me...
After a long wait by me and hari, the much awaited stipend came by today. And i should say the excitement has not settled down yet. It is probably because this is the first salary we have ever earned till now. Like all, i thought i too would make a list of things i am going to buy( consumerism...), how much i will send back home and of course not to forget the social responsibility of charity. I will be very glad to send money back home. My parents are everything for me. They never denied me anything.I used to demand stuff and get it done. They have sacrficed many of their needs just for the sake of us children.. I am what i am because of my parents only (and friends of course).I also would like to help few friends whom i feel require monetary help.But i have a strong feeling i should do some charity in some sense.I always wanted to do something for the differentially-abled. My dad is massively involved in this blind organisation for quite a while now. I could do something for it. But it is not sinking in, probably because they do get a lot of attention these days. I want to do good to some portions of the society that hitherto have been touched. I want to see somebody happy(and happy is definitely not just money, it is a feeling that there are some people who care about the fact that they exist and look upon them as equals) at the end of the day, and it should be routed through proper channels. If you guys have any suggestions i am ready to take it up. Just leave a comment. Of course I have not decided on how much i will be giving, but i thought let me at least start this process... I maybe wrong in many of the views i have put forth till now. My way of thinking and analysing things might be very irritating to some people, but i know one thing for sure, being money minded is not me!. Hari was telling me that day (quoting from a book -Phantoms in the brain), being morale, kind and loving is there in our neurons, not many realise it, its there in our genes. Finally for what have i been writing about all this? I need some change in my thought process. I need to realise the more i get richer the more somebody is getting poorer. In control systems for any system to be stable(bare with me i am an Electrical Engineer), there must be a feedback, more importantly a negative feedback. Similarily in life we need to have this negative feedback, for the whole world to be stable, and that is by sharing the things you have , losing something you have more(could be money..)and being open to everything and most of all being a human!


4 comments:

Hari Vishnu said...

haha.. and just the other dy u were mentioning buying a camera again ! :-).. tryin to psyche urself out of the consumerism + materialism loop are u?

ya well no denying it.. money matters to me.. it matters to eeveryone.. only that theres a limit to how much of ideals/principles/values one is ready to sacrifice to get money.. taht definition varies from person to person..

Hari Vishnu said...

the only way to get out of consumerism.. wen ure going to bue a thing, think.. it will look like a good bargain, a good product, good brand that we have never owned etc.. but dont look at how much of a bargain it will be.. think (as we all already know but still refuse to practise) whether we need it really or not..

in that sense i dont need my n95. u dont need a camera, cos ur home has one and ravi has one.

but after all this ill still go back and think.. wat if i had my n95 with me :-)

sorry, anyways not this time dude.. i have u for company, so no buying this time.. deepak wanted to buy smoething permanently durabl with his money.. and ur charity is probably the most durable item u can buy with ur money..

The Third Twin said...

hmmm the only reason i mentioned buying a camera again is i thot my sis had bought but apparently she hadnt.. :) lol.. anyways now i know i do not need it.. probably yeah i am curbing one of my best interests (photography), but i know well not to fall into consumerism ( why the hell are we makin a big issue outta a goddamned camera..lol )..money matters to me in the sense that i know i can survive comfortably with it.. i have been surviving with certain amount and that wud do...

Anand Ramachandran said...

Money was an attempt, though a failure with respect to that attempt, to standardize the process of business transactions, or if not, that is what it should be. Theoretically, only transactions that involve exchange of the same material, say 1kg of rice exchanged for 1kg of same quality rice, though such transactions are as good as not taken place, can be said to be perfectly fair. Any other sort of transactions attain fairness in the light of equalization of the needs of both parties at that point of time, which, to a third party who may act as an arbitrator, would be subjective, and of course arbitrary. Of course the needs that were equal at the time of the transaction may not seem so at a later time to the parties themselves. Money fails because it is a paradox - it says the subjective is the objective.

The title "I have the whole world with me, but i do require the stipend!" is apt. Your lines from Muthu you chose in illustrating the nature of money were as good as any other instance anybody could have chosen. In short, a very important subject that people should think about, but most miss out in their hurry to buy out luxuries, perhaps an irony here.

Great blog!

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